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The greatest word in building trust
“Did you ever feel like the world was a tuxedo and you were a pair of brown shoes?” – George Goebel
Picture this: You just started a new job or joined an organization. You don’t know anyone. It is time for you to attend your first social event. As you walk in, you hear talking and laughter. Folks are clustered in groups engaged in conversation. You want to be a part of your new group, but you can’t figure out how to get started. Just when you are starting feel completely invisible, an energetic, radiant individual springs from one of the groups. She approaches you smiling, extends her hand, and introduces herself. She then starts asking questions. She wants to know what you do and why you enjoy it. She then says, “C’mon, I want to introduce you to some folks.” She does. Next, she makes sure you are a part of the conversation. “So Steve, as an executive coach, what has been your experience with this business challenge?” Gradually, you feel yourself being more comfortable. This special person inspired you to forget yourself and be yourself.
Here is my question: How many of us take the time to do what this lady did? What did she do? She INVITED, the newcomer into the conversation. She knew one of the greatest ways to make a difference is cradled in the word, INVITE.
I was reminded of the power of this two days ago after church. I saw Sam standing there all by himself. He is 90 years old, and two weeks ago he lost his wife. They were married 64 years. I went over to him, extended my sympathies, and then got him to talking about his life with Tina, and how they met. His eyes lit up. “She was a soda jerk, and I just couldn’t resist her.” We talked for quite a while. I hope I was able to spark some joy to alleviate his grief.
Here is my advice to you: Look around and be sensitive to those who are being left out. Invite them in! You can make their day, or even create a turning point in their life.