Posted: November 30, 2021 | Categories: Leadership, Self-Improvement

“The reason there were so many heroes at the Alamo is that there was no back door”

Whether we are a parent, boss, or in charge of a team, we need to be a good teacher. What do good teachers do? You remember. Think of our favorites growing up. They believed in us, they wanted us to grow and prosper, and they would not let us sell ourselves short. We don’t do much growing in our comfort zone.

There are two types of delegation: One is designed to increase someone’s ability and confidence, and the other is for work distribution.

When I was in 5th grade, my teacher, Mrs. McGinness delegated a project to me. She appointed me editor of the class yearbook. It was a big project, and I didn’t think I could do it. Mrs. McGinness made me believe that I could.

To get started, I needed to break the job into “bite-size” chunks. If I hadn’t, it would have been overwhelming. I shared this list of tasks with Mrs. McGinness, and she directed me to put deadlines on each one. Then she checked in with me on each deadline to make sure I didn’t run into a snag. Losing steam was not an option. There were times when I got overwhelmed, and wanted her to help with the load. Nope. It was my “baby” she told me. I persevered and, if I may say so, did a pretty good job. Mrs. McGinness knew the magic phrases that kept me accountable and prevented her from “buying it back” Here were a few:

• I know you can do it…
• I am counting on you, Steve…
• What is your new plan of action?
• What are you going to do about it now?
• What is plan B?

Mrs. G kept me moving forward. That is what strong leaders do!

Posted: November 16, 2021 | Categories: Customer service, Leadership, Self-Improvement, Team Building

When I decided to become a professional coach, I began a long training process that included numerous practicums I was either directly involved in or part of the audience. These practicums were in the form of role-playing, and I remember one time the person in the coaching role became a little “edgy” when working with his sample client. I thought the coach was going to be criticized for his edginess. Instead, he was praised. What? Here’s why: Good teachers, coaches, and parents know how to pull out the best in people. When your pupil is not giving his or her best, you are probably going to be frustrated or disappointed, and it shows up in your voice. I am not referring to a “nasty” tone. I mean “edgy”. There is a big difference. Here is an example:

A couple weeks ago I was in my garage, and noticed the lawn tractor lights had been left on. As a result, the battery was dead. My wife had been the last one to use the tractor, and I brought the situation to her attention. In he response, I could tell she was irritated. Later that day, I mentioned she had sounded edgy, and asked why. She said she did not like the way I approached her. I asked her what would have been a better approach. She told me. Problem solved.

When those we interact with appear tense, we can gently and tactfully ask them what is bothering them. Sometimes it is us, but other times it is not. They may have had a big argument with their kids or spouse that morning. We don’t know. We ask. If we are the source, we can make the adjustment. If we don’t, resentment can set it in, and teamwork and communication suffer.

Here is the message: If we are not happy with something, don’t be afraid to let it show a little in our voice. If we sense someone else is a little tense, find out why. We will strengthen teamwork and communication.

Posted: October 21, 2021 | Categories: Presentation skills, Sales, Self-Improvement

If you were to review all the commencement addresses since the beginning of time, you would probably be able to make a list of the most vital qualities of success on one page.  I would like to focus on self-discipline.  This attribute is sometimes referred to as the “ironclad quality of success”.  Let me illustrate:

Early in my career, I worked as an account representative for a leadership training company.  I had made a key appointment with the head of a company.  Because I was a rookie, it was required that I have my mentor with me on the appointment.  Jim and I met in the parking lot 15 minutes before the scheduled appointment.  The first question Jim asked me was, “Steve…what is your goal for this call?”  I replied, “I already achieved it.  I got the appointment.  We’ll just go where the music takes us”.  Jim frowned, and said, “Steve, let’s talk through this”  Lesson learned: I should not start preparing for my appointment in the parking lot.  If we are serious about what we do, we prepare thoroughly.

Now let’s look at a “right way” example:  A client of mine had been working to secure a big account for several weeks.  She was competing against some tough opponents.  She got the contract.  Afterwards, she asked the business owner why she was chosen and not one of the others.  The answer was simple:  The boss said, “Because you do your homework”  We can all tell when someone has done their homework, and we respect and appreciate that quality. We believe such a person is self-disciplined, and can be counted on.  Message: Prepare relentlessly.

One final note:  Given all the technology we have today, if we arrive on a sales call having carefully reviewed the prospect’s website, they will know it.  In other words, don’t start off with the question, “So what exactly is it that you do here?”  (Ouch)

Posted: October 20, 2021 | Categories: Leadership, Self-Improvement, Team Building

This week we received the sad news that General Colin Powell died at age 84.  He was a world-renowned statesman, diplomat, Secretary of State, and four-star General.

The son of Jamaican Immigrants, he was born in Harlem, New York in 1937.  He was raised in the South in tough times, General Powell reached his success through hard work, strong ethics, and love of his country.  In 1995 he wrote his book, “My American Journey”.  Contained in this book were his 13 “Rules for living”.  Of all the attachments I send to my clients and friends, these rules are at the “top of the Hit Parade”.  Here they are:

1. It ain’t as bad as you think.  It will look better in the morning.
2. Get mad, then get over it.
3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that, when your position falls, your ego goes with it.
4. It can be done!
5. Be careful what you choose.  You may get it.
6. Don’t let adverse facts stand in the way of a good decision.
7. You can’t make someone else’s choices.
8.  Check small things.
9. Share credit.
10. Remain calm.  Be kind.
11. Have a vision.  Be demanding.
12. Don’t take counsel of your fears or naysayers.
13. Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.

I have found these rules to be helpful when I am dealing with situations, problems, crises, and making decisions.  They may do the same for you!

Posted: July 16, 2021 | Categories: Leadership, Self-Improvement

Are you an “eager beaver”?  By that I mean you are determined to do what it takes to advance in your career and live the life of your dreams?  If so, there is a very important person you need to help you.  I am talking about who you report to – your boss.  Your boss should be your advocate…your cheerleader.  They want you to succeed.  If you don’t have such a boss, don’t bother reading the rest of this blog.  (I feel sorry for you)

If you have a boss who believes in you and is a strong mentor, he or she is probably approachable and takes time to listen to you with genuine interest and full focus.  We talk to them about our ideas.  Our boss listens and asks questions to clarify and promote deeper thinking.  When they do this, they help us along and strengthen trust at the same time.  These conversations can make our work challenging, engaging, and fulfilling.  They open us up.  My questions is, how often do we open our boss up and show genuine interest in them?

The most respected and trusted leaders I have known are good listeners.  They spend a good chunk of their day listening and asking questions.  I have also noticed that good leaders, like all of us, like people to show a genuine interest in them.  I am frequently amazed when I coach bosses.  During our calls, it is not uncommon for a boss to dominate 90% of the conversation.  My part consists of mostly asking questions to help them talk through the problem or the challenge.  What I am saying is, bosses like to be listened to as much as we do.

As a coach, I spend most of my time listening and asking questions. I am paid to do this, yet in some instances   people ask me questions.  When this does happen, I tend to give short answers, and others are fine with that.  Then, there are rare occasions when someone won’t accept my short answers.  They say, things like, “Tell me more”.  Once this happens, I realize they are genuinely interested interested in what I am excited about.  Then I open up and really go on a roll.  Afterwards, I say to myself, “What a neat person!”  I like, trust, and respect them more.  My advice to you:  If you want to build a strong bond with your boss, get them to open up.